Archive for December, 2009

Beliefs and New Year’s Resolutions

December 30, 2009

Barbara Joye - The Shift Guru
Barbara Joye – The Shift Guru

Have you ever wondered why so few of our New Year’s Resolutions are not firmly in place at the end of the year?  Have you ever decided to simply not make the resolution because you do not want one more year of ‘resolution failure’? 

As I see it, and I have had many years of ‘resolution failure’, there are two main causes.  First, it seems we believe, somewhere deep in our souls, that there is something magical about a resolution made on the first day of a new year.  I have no idea why this is the case, but I think it must be because we continue to make resolutions year after year that we have never been able to sustain for any length of time.  Perhaps we think….maybe this year! or something equally improbable. 

The second reason I believe New Year’s Resolutions are not effective is because we do not spend the time analyzing our beliefs about the resolutions we make.  And, in not analyzing, we set ourselves up for failure one more time. 

This year, begin differently.  Identify why you have not been successful in achieving what you are thinking of creating a resolution around.  Identify, using the Belief Continuum or the 13 Steps to Shift A Belief and then move forward into the new year with a greater probability of success. 

The Shift Guru is focused on assisting individuals in shifting their beliefs about themselves and live so they may enjoy the life they came into this incarnation to enjoy. visit us at http://www.theshiftguru.comto learn more. 

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Preparing for the New Year

December 28, 2009

Barbara Joye - The Shift Guru
Barbara Joye – The Shift Guru

We are a wonderful society. We spend the last two weeks (sometimes more) wishing folks we know and individuals we do not know a Happy New Year, and yet few of us really prepare for out next adventure – the 2010 New Year. 

I wonder why we are so good at talking about it and so reserved when we prepare to enter the new year and enjoy it.  Perhaps, if we were to reverse the energy outlay, we would all enter the new year in better spirits and even better prepared.  

I have considered all that is involved in engaging in a new set of energy – a new year – and would like to speak to them in this blog series.  

One of the first things to prepare for in the new year is to determine who we are going to be.  In this determining, we then are able to determine what we might need to shift in our lives.  By this determining, we can create that which we need to shift to become who we desire to be.  And, in the off-chance that we do not make those shifts, we know we have only ourselves to be accountable for as we have, by not making the shifts, determined that we will continue on in the same format and mindset as we progressed through 2009. 

Is that what you are intending?  Is a similar year to 2009 your intention?  Or, are you willing to consider making a shift or two??? 
The Shift Guru is focused on assisting individuals in shifting their beliefs about themselves and live so they may enjoy the life they came into this incarnation to enjoy. visit us at http://www.theshiftguru.comto learn more. 

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And for an amazing book on shifting your life, visit www.the-light-won.com.

Holiday Memories – Family

December 25, 2009

Barbara Joye - The Shift Guru
Barbara Joye – The Shift Guru

For me, family is an important part of my holiday tradition. And, also for me, I define family as those individuals whom I am close to and enjoy being with. 

This was not the definition my parents used as they were of the old school that family was bound by blood relationship. And, I can remember many a holiday season when they would bundle us all up, rather begrudgingly, to visit family members…individuals that they did not generally see any other time of the year. 

And, most likely due to this memory and the belief it instilled in me, I have chosen to define my holiday family differently. 

How do you choose to define your holiday family?  And remember, you are always in choice in all of your definitions and beleifs…the societal norms are ever-present and we have a choice of aligning to them or not…our choice.  So, how do you choose to define your holiday family and what might we learn from your choices? 

The Shift Guru is focused on assisting individuals in shifting their beliefs about themselves and live so they may enjoy the life they came into this incarnation to enjoy. visit us at http://www.theshiftguru.comto learn more. 

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And for an amazing book on shifting your life, visit www.the-light-won.com.

Holiday Memories – Holiday Finances

December 23, 2009

Barbara Joye - The Shift Guru
Barbara Joye – The Shift Guru

Oh yes, and I would be very remiss if I did not include an acknowledgement of the tradition of holiday finances as I begin to wrap up this holiday series. 

How we spend during the holidays is also due to the belief systems we have around what is appropriate to spend during the holidays or what we desire to accomplish through our holiday spending…actually one in the same. 

The manner in which we spend – or more likely over spend – during the holidays is due less to what we experienced when we were small than what we are attempting to accomplish during the holiday season.  Very few of us consider the impact of our spending in the first quarter of the next year unless we hold a belief int he implications of holiday spending.  Most of us simply open our credit card statements in January and reflect upon what was accomplished or not accomplished during the holidays. 

Consider how your spending might or might not shift if your focus were on the size of your credit card statement or bank account in January.  And, for those of you who do focus on this element during your holiday spending, consider what it would feel like to not even have this as a consideration.  

And, then, based upon the feelings and thoughts generated by these considering’s, see if you can uncover your belief around holiday finances. And share what you have learned if it feels right. 

The Shift Guru is focused on assisting individuals in shifting their beliefs about themselves and live so they may enjoy the life they came into this incarnation to enjoy. visit us at http://www.theshiftguru.comto learn more. 

And follow me on my twitter and Facebook 

And for an amazing book on shifting your life, visit www.the-light-won.com.

Holiday Memories – Holiday Fragrance

December 21, 2009

Barbara Joye - The Shift Guru
Barbara Joye – The Shift Guru

This holiday season has a very special set of fragrances that seems to accompany it,  fragrances that I do not relate with any other time of the year.  

And, as with other elements or aspects of this holiday time, these fragrances beget memories and buried within these memories are beliefs – about how we ‘should’ be feeling during the holidays; about what the holidays ‘should’ look like; and about how everyone ‘should’ be acting. 

It is only when we release the ‘shoulds’ of the season that we can truly enjoy all that is possible this holiday season.  

What ‘shoulds’ do you have around these holidays? How might they look, feel, be different if you were to release one or more of your ‘holiday shoulds’?  

‘Shoulds’ are often how beliefs can be identified and then adjusted or released.  They provide incredible insight into what is buried much deeper in our psyches. 

The Shift Guru is focused on assisting individuals in shifting their beliefs about themselves and live so they may enjoy the life they came into this incarnation to enjoy. visit us at http://www.theshiftguru.comto learn more. 

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And for an amazing book on shifting your life, visit www.the-light-won.com.

Holiday Memories – Kitchen Magic

December 18, 2009

Barbara Joye - The Shift Guru
Barbara Joye – The Shift Guru

The smells in my Mom’s kitchen is one of my favorite holiday memories and one that often assails me during the holidays.      

It is amazing how often I think of my Mom when I smell cookies baking or the smell of a turkey just out of the over.

These same smells during different times of the year do not create the same memories or thoughts. These same  kitchen smells do not trigger my thinking the way they do during the holiday season. And, for this reason, when my son was young, I made certain to create the same kitchen magic (as I have come to call it) and he is now re-creating the same kitchen magic during the holidays that he enjoyed as a young boy.

What kitchen magic memories do you connect to the holidays?  And, how do those memories affect your feelings of the holidays and the potential held this time of year?
The Shift Guru is focused on assisting individuals in shifting their beliefs about themselves and live so they may enjoy the life they came into this incarnation to enjoy. visit us at http://www.theshiftguru.comto learn more.

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And for an amazing book on shifting your life, visit www.the-light-won.com.

Holiday Hooks – Lights in the Window

December 16, 2009

Barbara Joye - The Shift Guru
Barbara Joye – The Shift Guru

Another holiday ‘hook’ is the outdoor decorations utilized by cities and individual homeowners. The decorations allowed, the colors of the lights, and the form of the decorations seem to have a great deal of impact on many individuals. When I talk to my friends and I bring up the lights I see in my neighborhood, it always brings up animated discussion. 

And this discussion typically leads back to memories of holiday times and of the lights that we were aware of at a much younger age. For some of my friends, the color of the lights has great significance. For other of my friends the types of decorations seems to have great impact. And for still others, timing of the decorations seems to have great impact. As I said, the discussion is often very animated and typically leads to memories of holidays past – the good, the bad and what appeared to be the unimportant. 

What memories, and with them buried beliefs, do the holiday lights hold for you? 

The Shift Guru is focused on assisting individuals in shifting their beliefs about themselves and live so they may enjoy the life they came into this incarnation to enjoy. visit us at http://www.theshiftguru.comto learn more. 

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And for an amazing book on shifting your life, visit www.the-light-won.com.

Holiday Memories – The Sound of Snow under My Feet

December 14, 2009

Barbara Joye -  The Shift Guru
Barbara Joye – The Shift Guru

 One of the holiday memories I have is the crunchy sound of snow beneath my feet. I don’t even think about how important this memory is to my connecting to the holidays until I am in a part of the country that does not have snow during the holidays. 

I was amazed at how this simply aspect of the weather seemed to impact my holiday feelings – my holiday cheer. And, as I have learned more about beliefs, I now understand that somewhere in my memory bank and deeply buried in my belief systems, the happy holidays must have had cold crunchy snow and the less than happy holidays did not have snow. How does it happen that we relate something so mundane as snow to the joy of a holiday season? 

And what do you relate to this holiday season the way I do the sound of snow beneath my feet? 

The Shift Guru is focused on assisting individuals in shifting their beliefs about themselves and live so they may enjoy the life they came into this incarnation to enjoy. visit us at http://www.theshiftguru.comto learn more. 

And follow me on my twitter and Facebook 

 And for an amazing book on shifting your life, visit www.the-light-won.com.

There’s a Song in the Air

December 11, 2009

Barbara Joye - The Shift Guru
Barbara Joye – The Shift Guru

And so we all enter this holiday season with peace and goodwill on our minds and in our hearts. And then the old tapes begin to play and our history begins to support our joy or diminish it. 

One of the aspects of the holiday season that we are often impacted by is the songs that are sung and played. Nearly all of them, if not all, are about joy and peace and family and love and all of the beautiful things of life. While many people, perhaps some of us, are not feeling the joy or the love of this holiday season. We are not living the season as the songs tell us is appropriate and ‘right’. 

And many of us have one or two songs that really trigger the old memories of how it was or could be and that impacts us even more, again, either positively or less than positively. 

So, the question for all of us is how best to re-write the story of our past experiences with the songs of the holidays; how best to create the feelings we desire to have and not allow the old patterns to affect us so much. How might you consider shifting your patterns so you can enjoy the holidays and the peace and goodwill that truly can be found during this time – and all times? What is your opportunity to shift? 

The Shift Guru is focused on assisting individuals in shifting their beliefs about themselves and live so they may enjoy the life they came into this incarnation to enjoy. visit us at http://www.theshiftguru.comto learn more. 

And follow me on my twitter and facebook

And for an amazing book on shifting your life, visit www.the-light-won.com.

Holiday History and Traditions

December 9, 2009

Barbara Joye - The Shift Guru
Barbara Joye – The Shift Guru

For the vast majority of us, the holidays bring to mind events and traditions from our history. Some of the events are delightful to remember and some can be downright difficult. Some of the traditions are worth retaining and some we retain simply because it is easier then to explain why we don’t retain them. All in all, the holiday time is a time of more reflection and regurgitation than most. 

And why not…where else in our culture do we hold a great deal of tradition? Where else do we reflect upon our upbringing and the family dinners and the holiday trimmings that we each grew up with. Sure there are other family traditions – perhaps a 4th of July picnic or a New Years Day football tradition or perhaps even a Memorial Day gardening event that we remember from our childhood. And, still, for the vast majority of us, this is the one time of year when we can know that the individual sitting next to us on the train or driving in the car next to us has some of their own traditions to remember – some in awe and some in dismay. 

These traditions and memories and how we relate to them tell us a great deal about who we are now – as adults – and how we hold our beliefs around the holidays. What memories do you cherish? What memories do you avoid? And what beliefs about family and tradition and the holiday season affects you in December and the eleven other months? 

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