Posts Tagged ‘relationship’

The Creating Cafe with Seth Chernoff and Manual For Living: CONNECTION, A User’s Guide to the Meaning of Life

September 25, 2011

The Creating Cafe on WWNN Radio, Boca Raton AM1470

at 9:00 EDT PM Sunday, September 25th

Discussing Connections in Life – Their Meaning and


How are you connected to yourself and your purpose on earth?

What is your relationship, your connection, to your life path?

What changes are you willing to make to return to alignment with you own truth?

The connections in your life create the rich tapestry of our earth existence.  The connections in your life create the balance of our living – the balance between living within societal norms and the cosmos; the balance between living within societal norms and your own purpose; the balance between living within your comfort zones and the experiences desired by your Soul self. This show, with its insights and observations regarding Life Connections, is one to not be missed.

In this insightful show you will be presented with many ways to optimize your life connections. The Angelic Realm, Barbara’s guest Seth Chernoff,  and Barbara herself will address the relationships and connections in your life; the impact of balancing your connections in life; and the benefits of creating a dynamic and powerful relationship with Self

Barbara’s guest, Two-time cancer survivor and author Seth David Chernoff, presents Manual For Living: CONNECTION, A User’s Guide to the Meaning of Life. This book, the second in the Manual for Living series, is a thought-provoking, soulful inquiry, asking us to look within and pay close attention.  It offers questions that delve into why we think what we think and do what we do in relationship to our own life and humanity at large, forming the premise that life’s potency emerges in the here and now. ‘CONNECTION’ and Seth can be found at .

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Belief: I am Unlovable

November 8, 2010

Do you remember the first time you ever thought that thought, heard that statement being said by someone, or considered such a possibility was even in the realm of likelihood?

Most likely you do not.  Most likely you have a connection to the statement and have no idea where it came from or how you ever picked it up.  This is because this phrase is most often used with small children by some adult that feels very unlovable and unloved for we are a mirror for everything. And, most often we have heard this type of statement, whether it is directed at us or not, as something we ought to embrace – something that is true about ourselves – something that denotes us as well as whomever else the statement was being made about. 

And it becomes a belief.

Begin right now to shift your belief.  To know that you are utterly and totally lovable.  That the wonder of you is so dynamic and so understated that it beacons to those who are attracted to your specific and unique frequency.  And then go about your day with the knowing that you are totally and irrefutably lovable.

This simple shift, this simple knowing that for those whose frequency is attracted to you (and there are hundreds of thousands) you are totally lovable.  Attract those individuals into your life.  Attract love into your life.  Be lovable.

How would you like to shift this belief? 

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Belief: I have a better chance of being hit by a bus than of meeting….

October 22, 2010

“Women over 40 have a better chance of being hit by a bus than of meeting the man of their dreams.” Have you ever wondered who created that statistic and how angry that lady must have been?  If you are buying into this statement, this belief, then you are more likely to be hit by a bus.

I have noted over the years that there are as many ‘statistics’ on just about anything.  If I wait long enough, someone else will come up with a study that shows just the opposite.  So, I recommend we accept those ‘statistics’ that support the lives we want to live.

Statistics are only that and they most often support the beliefs of the individual gathering the data.  Case in point, coffee is both terrible for you and healthy for you.  There are very few foods that are not good for us.  Life is hard. 

Silly us for creating beliefs around supposed statistics.  How might your life be different if you were to stop believing this statistic?

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How would you like to consider shifting those beliefs? 

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Self-Love in Relationships

September 17, 2010

And society tells you that you are being selfish when you place love of self before love of relationships.  And We, the Angelic Realm, tell you that unless you place love of self before relationships your relationships do not have a chance of blossoming and growing. For, if you give up yourself or even put yourself into second place in a relationship, the relationship become unbalanced.

As we say this, be aware that we are not speaking of inconsiderate, self-centered love.  We are speaking of true self-love. The love that keeps you aware of your wholeness, your worthiness, your beauty as the being you are.  We are speaking of the love of self that allows you to shine and to grow.  We are speaking of the soul level love. (more…)

Love in Relationship

September 13, 2010

When we shift from perceiving love from a duality perspective – right and wrong, good and bad – and move into a relationship perspective, the outcome of a loving relationship shifts significantly.

When we approach relationship – again, all types of relationships – from the perspective of relationship, we allow all of the possibilities of that relationship to blossom and eventually to bloom.  We allow all of the greatness that can be gleaned from that relationship to come forth.

This does not mean that all relationships are going to be the end-all of life for each of us.  It simply means that when we address relationship from the perspective of relationship we allow the interaction to be all that it can be; we do not limit the interactions with confining thoughts and feelings.  (more…)

Love in Duality

September 10, 2010

Relationships are the key to our very existence – whether the relationship is with our intimate partner, our parents, siblings, children,co-workers or ourselves.  And it is for this reason that the element of duality is very important to consider in each of our relationships.

Duality is the manner in which many individuals live…in fact, it is the manner in which most individuals live. 

Duality states that one thing is good and another thing is bad; that one thing is worth working toward and another thing is not. (more…)

Love from the perspective of the Angelic Realm

September 8, 2010

As I understand it, within the Angelic Realm the concept of love is much differnt than it is in our earth space. 

When the Angelic Realm speaks of love, they speak of creating a feel of connectedness and joy…a feeling of beauty and expansiveness.  And, they wonder why we have lost that part of our remembering.  I have told Them that we have not lost that part; rather, we have extended the love experience to include all of what they know it to be to also include a one-on-one intimate relationship.  I have told Them that on the earth plane, we like to have a significant partner or mate to experience all of with life.  And, due to this desire, we have included in the ‘love experience’ the complexity of a long-term one-on-one relationship. (more…)

Your Life: As Viewed by The Divine/The All

March 10, 2010

Barbara Joye - The Shift Guru
Barbara Joye – The Shift Guru


Let me just begin this post with the statement that I have very busy Angels and Guides who often wake me up in the middle of the night to talk a bit.  They seem to have no regard for the human experience and my need for sleep during the night-time hours.
All that aside, the next morning, I was rudely awakened by this same Angelic Team who asked me an even more difficult question than they had the day before.  The earlier question was: ‘What do you perceive your life looks life from the Angelic Realm’.  Today the question is ‘ What do you perceive your life looks like from the perspective of The Divine/The All?’ (more…)

Shifting A Belief: You Create Your Life

February 24, 2010

Barbara Joye - The Shift Guru
Barbara Joye – The Shift Guru
 So you wake up one morning and realize, truly realize, that you create the life you experience.  And after the few expletives that you share with no one in particular, you begin to take stock of what this really means to you. You begin to really take stock of how this will impact your thinking of everything from the friends you hang out with, to the level of tolerance you have for nearly every aspect of your life, to the foods you eat and your willingness to support causes through your lack of interest. (more…)

Shifting Beliefs – The Belief in Your Own Self Worth

February 15, 2010

Barbara Joye - The Shift Guru
Barbara Joye – The Shift Guru

And if I am to take seriously the recommendation to live as an Arch Angel, it occurred to me that I had to believe in my self worth – my own worthiness.  And once again, this is not something that I as a child (or as an adult) have had a great deal of education and training and practice. 

What does it really mean to believe in our own self worth?  And does that look self focused?  Does that cause someone to appear to be self-absorbed and without thought or concern for others?  Or, is it just the opposite, as some of my friends think?  Does it mean that I would end up giving all to everyone else due to the fact that I fully understand my own worth, my own worthiness? 

Ponder, for a moment, what elements of yourself you do not find worthy or trust in the worthiness of.  Think for a moment about the skills and aptitudes and talents you have that you have not fully developed because…. (and there are a myriad of stories and approaches to not developing our talents and aptitudes).  And then consider if perhaps, just perhaps, the lack of development is due, in part, to a lack of self-worth or sense of worth as it relates to that skill, talent, aptitude.  

Or perhaps, as I identified for me, you have not developed that talent or skill or aptitude because it might lead you down some very interesting and less than normal paths in life.  And isn’t being outside of the norm one of our the greatest fears for the vast majority of us? 

Take just a moment and consider how much you truly believe in your own self worth.  And then reflect upon how awesome life will be when you do truly believe in your own self worth. 

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